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[_] Broke up with gf Anonymous 12/12/23(Tue)19:02:37 No.

  This was the first relationship I'd had and it lasted almost three months. 25 years old. Alone
  again, naturally.

>> [_] Anonymous 12/12/23(Tue)19:05:32 No.

  >25
  haha, faggot

>> [_] Anonymous 12/13/23(Wed)00:59:23 No.

  >>3502171
  That really sucks.
  I am sorry Anon.
  Also, Ignore the other guy.
  There is nothing wrong with grief posting.

>> [_] Anonymous 12/13/23(Wed)03:59:04 No.

  It's rough, but life is rough and sorrow is just a coping mechanism. Try to grow from this
  experience, I have faith in you.

>> [_] Anonymous 12/13/23(Wed)04:29:50 No.

  >>3502171
  what was the reason?

>> [_] Anonymous 12/13/23(Wed)05:32:27 No.

  >>3502171
  More will come. Pain will stay for a while, endure it. Try to learn from this relationship and
  choose your next girl wisely.
  I believe in you Anon, you can do it.

>> [_] Anonymous 12/13/23(Wed)05:37:16 No.

  >>3502186
  Appreciate your sympathy, /f/riend. Posted here since /f/ is one of the few areas of 4chan where
  people will offer some sliver of support for a fellow anon.
  (He's right though, it's a little embarrassing to be at this age with so little girl experience.)
  >>3502193
  We were not looking for the same things in each other. She was obsessive about me and focused
  very much on the affectionate aspect, treating me like a teddy bear. I wanted someone I could
  talk to more, being totally friendless and devoid of most social interaction. She also hid behind
  text messaging a lot and liked to almost roleplay through it in a juvenile way which is not my
  style (she is two years older than I).

  I also knew going in that she had bipolar disorder, and I had to weather several storms in our
  time together. I encouraged her to go to therapy, which she agreed to, but she has a host of
  other problems which she just doesn't take initiative in addressing. I could not take that
  therapeutic role for her.

  I feel pretty bad since she was very upset about breaking up, and I still want her to beat the
  odds and thrive. But as much as she thought otherwise, I was not the right guy for her.

  >>3502195
  >Pain will stay for a while, endure it.
  >>3502189
  >sorrow is just a coping mechanism
  WHO DO I LISTEN TO???

  Ultimately I feel much worse for her than I do for myself, but I'll be able to move on.

>> [_] Anonymous 12/13/23(Wed)07:43:22 No.

  Anon, it's good that you broke up with her because now you can realize all people die alone in
  the end and that you don't need other people to be happy. Wish you best of luck etc.

>> [_] Anonymous 12/13/23(Wed)07:45:43 No.

  >>3502197
  If it's to any consolidation I'm 10 years older than you and guess how many girl experiences I
  have.
  Both of those /f/ags are right in a way tho, the truth is people come and go no matter how hard
  you try for them to stay.
  From what you've written you tried to stay, she tried to change, but simply it wasn't enough.
  Life is a series of tries to make things happen, after all.

>> [_] Anonymous 12/13/23(Wed)09:16:37 No.

  >wanting a gf
  What a buch of faggets in here.

>> [_] Anonymous 12/13/23(Wed)09:40:46 No.

  >>3502207
  Hey buddy think you got the wrong door, the leather club is 2 blocks that way

>> [_] Anonymous 12/13/23(Wed)15:15:42 No.

  >>3502208
  this is why 3DPD never ever

>> [_] Anonymous 12/13/23(Wed)16:43:59 No.

  >>3502197
  Honestly sounds like you've got a pretty good head on your shoulders. Important thing is
  communication always. Sounds like she probably had issues facing reality in a measured enough way
  to communicate with you effectively and support you. I would wager you also are rather
  shy/nervous and have difficulty communicating at first even though you know that's what you want
  out of a relationship. I would advise you to just talk to more women, about anything. There's no
  secret to meeting girls other than the fact that you will have to initiate/carry conversation
  most of the time.

>> [_] :v 12/13/23(Wed)17:36:21 No.

  >>3502171
  GF's are temporary /f/ is eternal.

  Chin up /f/gt, life is short. Let yourself feel the sadness and then gradually make progression
  towards new goals. Focus on the self first and other aspects will follow.
  Constantly pushing for change to meet someone else's expectations or to achieve the attention of
  someone else will always lead to discontent. Find the "do you" that you do and do that first. :3

  This approach has helped even a serially depressed fucking loser like me make significant
  improvements in my life.

>> [_] OP 12/13/23(Wed)17:58:49 No.

  >>3502216
  Thanks for the advice. You are correct about my personality and her issues in communication. The
  breaking point for me was when I told her some of the issues I was having and she simply turned
  her head away and refused to look at me. This had happened often over text messaging (a type of
  communication I really dislike but she relied on) where she would avoid contact for hours after I
  brought up boundaries or concerns. For her to do it to me in real life was a huge sign of
  disrespect, and I just could not see us moving forward.

  I'm sure that her 'freezing up' is partially due to her mental issues but I just could not be the
  person to enforce coping skills. My perspective of a relationship is that you put the work in,
  have new experiences, and cooperatively build something together. But that level of behavior
  management is part of raising a child, not 'fixing' your romantic partner. God bless people who
  can do that but it was not what I was prepared to do week after week.

  I feel bad because she has had gotten a really crummy lot in life between bipolar and other
  issues. I never wanted to break her heart but now I've added to her mental mess. If anything I
  hope it's a wakeup call that she needs professional help.

  Sorry for the blogpost /f/ellas, just clearing my head.

  >>3502217
  Thanks :v , glad to see you are still around.

>> [_] Anonymous 12/13/23(Wed)21:14:27 No.

  https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=lL13EeEhgag

  Here you go OP, as a 30+ year old, here's some advice I wish someone gave me when I was 20.

>> [_] :v 12/13/23(Wed)21:16:46 No.

  >>3502218
  Hey man, I have almost exclusively chased girls with bipolar and shitty lots in life.

  I've scrambled brains too so I feel like I can help fix them or at least understand them. Boy,
  lemme tell you-- that is a TERRIBLE foundation for a relationship. It makes me he dynamic odd
  inevitably and someone always feels lied to or like they are "parenting" their partner.

  Stability and support are excellent gifts but you cannot be their change. They have to make that
  effort and get the help they need. Lord knows I let a few potentially great relationships go to
  shit because I wasn't ready to work on or let go of some of my baggage and/or bad habits
  masquerading as "coping techniques"

  You can't save anyone until you save yourself broseph. It's gonna hurt to watch them maybe even
  suffer but you've gotta meet your needs and expectations for yourself first.

>> [_] Anonymous 12/13/23(Wed)21:24:55 No.

  >>3502220
  >linking to YouTube on /f/
  >It's not even particularly relevant to OPs specific situation

  QRD so you don't have to give views to that vile platform:
  >Girls want a guy who's both nice to them, but also a "bad" boy (e.g. powerful in some sense) at
  the same time
  >Girls are attracted to powerful boys more than nice, committed boys

>> [_] Anonymous 12/13/23(Wed)22:41:44 No.

  >>3502218

  I was friends with a manic chick, she was alright when it began but she went fucking crazy and
  showed her true colors half way thru so I stopped speaking to her cuz she went absolutely nuts
  with all the symptoms.

  :V is right, you cannot change who they are, that change needs to come from them or another
  source to compell them; relationships are two independent people living together, not one
  controlling or infantalizing the other. I honestly think you did yourself a favour.

>> [_] Anonymous 12/13/23(Wed)22:42:59 No.

  >>3502224
  It's also been many months but I checked her facebook

  1) She got her kid back
  2) She got her truck back
  3) She got her license back
  4) She got an actual boyfriend

  After I stopped talking to her.

>> [_] Anonymous 12/14/23(Thu)22:00:13 No.

  >>3502197
  gonna script real quick to block posts with replies above 2.

>> [_] Anonymous 12/15/23(Fri)00:09:17 No.

  >>3502197
  It sounds to me like you broke up with her, not the other way around.